I have someone very special to me that just lost someone she cares about. That is the third person that she has lost this year. Her best friend had a brain aneurysm, another friend committed suicide, and the latest passed away after a car accident. 2017 has not been kind to her or the people she cares about. Despite all of the tragedy in her life she continues to push forward and continues to be one of the most positive and optimistic people that I know. She is an inspiration to me and I’m extremely thankful to have her in my life because she reminds me that life can be challenging, difficult, and depressing, but it is ultimately what we make it. She also reminds me that life is a paradox.
You see, I wish that none of those bad things had happened to this girl. I wish that more than anything, but at the same time I have to acknowledge that facing these difficult times and other conflicts in her life head on and overcoming them are what have made her the person that she is today. Her scars have made her stronger, and life is tough but she is tougher. The same is true of all of us. We hate the difficult times, but they are essential to our growth and definition. If we run from them, they make us weak, stressed, worried, etc. If we meet them head on and overcome them, they make us stronger and more confident.
With that in mind I urge you to embrace this past year, not kick it to the curb or kiss it goodbye. Chances are bad things happened. Don’t bury them or try to forget them. Embrace them. Embrace that a bad thing happened to you and you are still here, still fighting, still pushing forward, never giving up. Knowing that you are capable of getting through the difficult times in your life will make you stronger than any weightlifting regimen ever could. It will also give you real confidence that you can use to cut through all of the bullshit and fear that has gotten in between you and your dreams. Embrace your past and the painful lessons that it represents and you won’t need any new years resolutions. You will know who you are, what you are capable of, and how to filter out all the noise that kills your productivity and ambition on a daily basis. Will it make life easy and solve all of your problems? Hell no. But the harder life hits you, the harder you will hit back, and knowing how to do that will change your life like nothing else can.